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Are you Missing the Early Signs of Anxiety in your Young Child?

Signs Symptoms Anxious Child

What are the signs of anxiety in young children? Unfortunately anxiety is not often detected until children are school aged. Once a child is showing some serious distress – anxiety typically makes it onto the parental radar. But, what about before that time? Can anxiety be seen in toddlers and preschoolers? Can parents get their children help before those signs start to rear their ugly head? The answer is yes – you just have to know where to look.

Many parents and even mental health professionals will miss the very early signs of anxiety in young kids, as it looks vastly different than what we might expect. There are the obvious signs of toddler anxiety such as excessive fears and phobias, but there are also more subtle signs that indicate an anxious and sensitive temperament.

Some early precursors to anxiety are not fear related issues, but rather behavioral and sensory processing issues. Children with sensory processing issues are much more prone to having issues with anxiety as well. Some of these issues overlap with other possible diagnoses (including Sensory Processing Disorder) – therefore it is important to get an evaluation from a mental health professional who specializes in toddler mental health and a Pediatric Occupational Therapist if you have any concerns. Early intervention is key for all of these issues – and often from a team of therapists with different specialties – not just one.

Below are 10 common signs of an anxious toddler:

1) Fears and Phobias

First, let’s address the most obvious sign of toddler anxiety – fears and phobias. Toddlers with an anxious personality tend to be more fearful than the average toddler. Typical toddlers can also exhibit some of these fears, but it is the level of fear that sometimes differentiates the anxious toddler from the non-anxious toddler. The most common toddler fears are centered around a few basic themes:

  • Bugs, birds and animals
  • Shadows and the dark
  • Monsters, creatures and dinosaurs
  • Bathroom fears (Fear of getting flushed down the toilet, of bugs or of the flush)
  • Bathtub fears (Fear of getting swallowed by the drain, bugs in bath or of water)

This is not an exhaustive list, but highlights the most common toddler fears you might encounter with your little one.

2) Rigidity in Routine

All toddlers love routine and structure, but anxious toddlers cannot survive without it! Anxious toddlers need to have their day planned out in a very predictable fashion. If plans suddenly change, these children become completely unglued. Anxious children cannot handle change or transitions and they will often become unraveled when simple changes are made to their daily routine.

3) Sensitivity to Noises

Anxious toddlers are more likely to have heightened sensitivities. They are often more startled by noises in their environment. They might be afraid of loud sounds such as the vacuum, garbage disposal, garbage truck, automatic toilet flushers and loud music.

4) Sensitivity to Clothes

Besides noises, anxious children might start to have issues with their clothes. Often anxious toddlers have trouble with seams on their socks and tags on their clothes. Some children prefer to wear crocs or flip flops. Some anxious toddlers refuse to wear jeans or clothes that feel restricting on their body.

5) Doesn’t like to get Hands Dirty

Some anxious toddlers are very concerned with getting dirty – especially their hands. Anxious toddlers often avoid messy play and they may have a mini-meltdown if their hands get overly dirty. They will often insist on washing their hands when their hands have anything on them.

6) Has Many Rituals

Anxious toddlers have many routines, that border on ritualistic behavior. They may only want to use certain dishes or they may insist that you serve food to them in a certain way (cut it in triangles). They might have bedtime routines that require you to line up their stuffed animals in a certain way or require you to say good night to them in a certain way. They might have you re-do things because it wasn’t done in the correct order or in the correct way.

7) Picky Eater

Most toddlers are picky eaters. Food is a common toddler battle. The anxious toddler takes picky eating to another level! Anxious children are less likely to try any new foods at all. They may not want their food touching on their plate. Some anxious toddlers gag when their food has textures they are not expecting. Anxious toddlers might have less than a handful of foods that they will eat.

8) Toddler Follows you From Room to Room

The anxious toddler is a parent’s shadow. Many toddlers will follow their parent around the house, but the anxious toddler will have a complete meltdown if they cannot see their parent. These children are right under their parent’s feet and cry and hover around the door when their parent’s in the bathroom. Any type of separation is a cause for panic for the anxious toddler.

9) Slow to Warm

Anxious toddlers are less likely to be friendly to strangers. They are more likely to be leg huggers and may take some time to warm up to new people in their life. Some anxious toddlers might be overwhelmed in crowds or at busy birthday parties where there are many children around.

10) Sleep Issues

Anxious toddlers almost always have sleep issues. They have a hard time sleeping on their own and want their parent to lie down with them or sleep with them at night. They might get up several times a night because they are scared or had a bad dream.

Some anxious toddlers might have all ten of these qualities and others might only have a few. Every child is unique and anxiety can manifest in different ways for different children. The good news is the earlier you detect anxiety in your child, the quicker you can learn approaches to help build their level of resiliency and teach them coping mechanisms to overcome these challenges.

If you are concerned about your toddler’s behavior, consult an Infant and Toddler Mental Health Professional and an Occupational Therapist for an evaluation.

Anxious children often tend to be some of the most kind-hearted children I have ever met! Having a sensitive temperament brings many great strengths. It is important to arm our young children with tools to overcome their anxiety, so their full potential can achieved.

Do you have an anxious toddler? Natasha Daniels is the author of How to Parent Your Anxious Toddler. You can find her on her website AnxiousToddlers.com or over at Curious.com where she offers video courses on How to Parent Your Anxious Kids.

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