There are several myths about kids who are introverts:
- They are nervous
- They don’t like other people
- They don’t want to be social
- They are basically shy people
If you’re an introvert, you are not anti-social, you just react to your environment differently than some kids. You are certainly not shy; in reality, there is a notable difference between introversion and shyness. Shyness manifests when you’re scared of being judged negatively. An introvert is someone who prefers quiet or less stimulating environments—someone who recharges his or her energy by getting plenty of alone time.
Because society often tells us that we can get ahead by coming out of our shells, or being go-getters, introverts can sometimes feel like they are the only ones who want to sit quietly and think. But introversion is actually very common. In fact, it’s thought that up to half of all people are introverts. That means if you have 30 kids in your class, around 15 of them may actually be introverts too! And each one of you has superpowers.
Here are 11 superpowers of introverted children:
- You have deep friendships
You may feel overwhelmed or tired at a big, noisy party, but you love spending time catching up with very close friends. You are a very good listener, making close, even lifelong friendships. This is one of the great rewards of introversion.
- You are a great reader and writer
Introverts tend to love reading as part of their quiet, alone time. And the more you read, the better you write. Reading gives you inspiration and a better command of language, which you can show off in your imaginative and well-thought-out writing.
Timed writing assignments may not be your forte because you like to have space to carefully reason out an argument before writing it. But you have the capacity to write stories with detailed descriptions of the characters, surroundings, and the conflicts. You may agree with what Isaac Asimov, a prolific science fiction writer and author of I, Robot once said, “Writing, to me, is simply thinking through my fingers.”
- You are careful and conscientious
Sure, sometimes risk-taking pays off, but you see the value of looking before you leap. In fact, information takes a longer journey through an introvert’s brain than through that of an extrovert. Since you tend to hang back and study new situations before jumping right in, you give yourself the chance to make good choices.
- You have amazing ideas
By giving yourself the time to be quiet and listen to yourself think, you end up having lots of interesting ideas that may not have come to you if you spent all your time in a rowdy group. Keep listening to yourself, and keep being thoughtful!
- You make a great leader
This one may surprise you, but you have incredible leadership qualities! Introverted leaders project calmness in times of crises, think before they speak, and they ask great questions. These are all hallmarks of an effective leader and doer.
- You are a talented problem solver
You have larger, thicker gray matter in your prefrontal cortex (the command center in your brain responsible for complex problem solving, information processing, and decision making) than your extroverted peers. When you face a challenge, you thrive on the energy within your brain to work out thoroughly reasoned solutions. Your brain is literally built to ponder on things.
- You are observant
Introverts like to spend time in quiet thought. This means thinking about all kinds of things, including noticing and investigating your environment. Since introverts think through situations thoroughly and tend to create worlds in their own minds, they also tend to remember events and details vividly. This makes introverts awesome at recalling their own stories and the stories of other people.
- You are reliable
Chances are, even if they don’t always show it, the adults in your life have confidence in your reliability, and value and depend on your trustworthiness. Because you are organized, keeping your promises and plans is easier, because you usually think through your actions before you make them.
- You are fair
You are a terrific listener and tend to listen to all parties and circumstance before judging a situation. People love to have a friend that will really listen to what they have to say and provide equitable opinions. You are great at listening with your whole brain and not just your ears.
- You are peaceful
Introverts are rarely bullies, because rather than picking a fight, you are more likely to be found thinking about how to explain your point of view through words. Since you’re terrific listeners, introverts can often solve conflicts by talking it out rather than getting physical. Introverts tend to calm other people down who are around them. That’s not to say introverts don’t get excited or a little crazy sometimes, but they tend to stay calm and help other people around them stay calm, especially in tough situations.
- You know yourself
Because you like to spend time alone and enjoy your own thoughts, you know a lot about yourself, and how different things are likely to make you feel. Spending time thinking about who you are and what matters to you is a great way for an introvert to use their traits to help themselves grow.
If you would like to learn more about the science of introversion and extroversion, this article provides an excellent in-depth look: Introvert vs Extrovert: A Look at the Spectrum and Psychology